I have this problem and I know it can get me into a lot of trouble. The problem, you ask? I tend to see the best in people even when they aren’t acting their best.
How’s this a problem? Lots of reasons but the one I find most difficult to deal with—people can’t understand how I see these things in others. Sometimes “people” are acquaintances but the most difficult “people” are family and friends who don’t understand what I’ve seen.
When you see something in another person but those you love cannot understand it, it hurts. You want to open their eyes and make them believe in the other person like you do. These are the times when I wish I could hand them my heart and allow them to feel what I’ve felt and experienced so they can “get it” too.
Because of my past experiences and my personality those close to me have this vicious desire to protect me. It’s sweet, flattering, and I love them even more for it BUT sometimes it can be daunting. Maybe they don’t realize I see all those negative things that they see but I also see positive things they don’t. Often times I know they don’t want to see me hurt again. But this is life—hurt and pain are inevitable. We have a choice to let those hurts cripple us or catapult us. I lived the crippled life for a while—I prefer to be catapulted. 😉
Let’s be real. No one is perfect. I know that. I get that. We all make mistakes and maybe my greatest mistake is being too trusting and expecting the best of people but I refuse to let the wrong doings of others in my life to harden my heart. I’m vulnerable for putting so much faith in the ability of others to do the right thing. I know disappointment in those people is a given but the fear of disappointment will not wash away the faith I have in them.
Can seeing the good in others leave me heartbroken and hurting? Of course but writing people off—well that is much more painful than any wound inflicted by disappointment.
Sometimes people need that one person to remind them of the positive when they’re drowning in the negative. How many times have you been down on yourself? Felt completely worthless or unwanted? Maybe you’ve never been there but I sure have and sometimes for no valid reason at all. One of life’s greatest tragedies is not being able to see yourself the way your loved ones see you.
We stare in the mirror but the glass is foggy, marred with dirt and grime. BUT it only takes one person to clean your mirror and show you the beautiful person who’s always been inside of you.
Some days it’s difficult when others can’t see what you see but that’s okay. It’s okay to have a different set of opinions. It’s okay to have a different perspective. It’s okay to go against the grain sometimes. I have to remind myself of this often. Heck it’s the reason I started typing out this blog post.
So it sounds like my problem isn’t really a problem after all. It’s a gift. No, even better—it’s a superpower! Now I just need a really cute superhero outfit. Cape optional.
Try to take a moment today and attempt to see the positive in someone else or in the least throw a compliment out there. You never know how much a few words of kindness can help someone. You might save their life and not even know it and saving a life–that makes you a superhero!
#SeeTheGood #BeASuperhero #CleanTheMirror #ShareTheLove