Have you ever had an idea? Something that motivates you and moves you in your gut, in your heart, and in your soul? Maybe you want to start a charitable organization. Maybe you want to be a teacher. Maybe you want to start a business. Maybe you want to write a book. Maybe you want to invent something super cool and helpful. Maybe you want to be the best at whatever it is your little heart desires.
You start researching, making plans, doing things to bring this wonderful little dream to life when suddenly the sneaky snake of self-doubt slithers in and like a nasty cobra winds itself around your ambition and confidence suffocating it. Then you stand looking at your little dream wondering if it’s worth chasing that self-doubt back into the dark hole it came from. What if it bites us and our dream ends in a flaming torch of failure? But what if it runs away and our dream becomes one our greatest legacies?
In everything I’ve ever attempted, self-doubt has shown up. Every. Single. Time. It’s shown up when I look at the relationships in my life and whether I’m doing enough or doing the right thing to grow them. It’s shown up in all my academic pursuits. It left me in tears on more than one occasion while studying and taking the CPA exam. During my days of public accounting, it would show up and make me question my intelligence. When standing in front of a classroom filled with students (some of them older than me) I’ve questioned if I was qualified to be there imparting the fundamentals of accounting. When I was in the darkest days of grief self-doubt made me question EVERY moment and why I was even attempting to breathe. Self-doubt has made me question every aspect of my life from my character to my appearance, my heart to my mind. And while that makes self-doubt a bit of a jerkwad, I’ve learned to see it from a different perspective. Self-doubt can actually be a wicked awesome motivator. That’s right folks, I said motivator. 😉
If we never stop to question ourselves and assess our situations, we can find ourselves trucking it down the completely wrong road for our lives. It’s important for us to take a moment and review what we want, why want it, and what we’re doing to get it. It’s important to reflect on the things that didn’t work and the things that did. Self-doubt can be an empowering tool if we use it properly. But we have to remember to be fair to ourselves, to not beat ourselves up for our mistakes, and to give credit for our successes. <–This is one of the reasons most of us walk away or get incredibly defeated when self-doubt wraps itself around our legs, we wallow in our mistakes and allow fear to keep us from moving forward. Plus we can be straight up meanie heads to ourselves. Everyone deserves your kindness ESPECIALLY you!
Right now, I’m in a whirlwind of release prep for How I Learned to Shine. I cannot remember being so confident in anything I’ve ever done in my life as much as I am with this book. And guess what? Almost daily self-doubt has reared its little head and tried to wind around my feet. I take a moment ponder the message, assess my plans, then step out of the way of the little viper. Sometimes I have to consult my trusted self-doubt slayers aka the crew of besties for input but ultimately I’m the only one who chooses to let self-doubt defeat me or push me on to the next level. I prefer moving up a notch, don’t you?
I hope you take comfort in knowing you aren’t the only one battling self-doubt. You’re strong enough, smart enough, heck you’re just flat out enough to get past whatever it is that’s holding you back. Put on your super cool shades and see self-doubt for what it is—a tool for success and not a means of defeat.
Keep moving forward and never ever give up on your always and forever!
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